What Are You
Really Afraid Of?
We all know that real estate investing is a great way to take control
of your life. With "downsizings", "rightsizings",
"off shoring" and layoffs at an all time high, job security is
simply a thing of the past.
According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics millions of people lost
their jobs in mass layoffs last year, and the same is expected this
year.
So why don’t more people actually embark to take control of their
life? One common answer is a four-letter word,
F-E-A-R.
Fear is one of the biggest success killers there is. It not only
stops people from becoming successful, it stops many people from even
trying!

What’s the Definition of
Fear?
According to dictionary.com there are four definitions:
- "A feeling of agitation and anxiety caused by the presence or
imminence of danger, a state or condition marked by this feeling:
living in fear".
- "A feeling of disquiet or apprehension: a fear of looking
foolish".
- "Extreme reverence or awe, as toward a supreme power".
- "A reason for dread or apprehension: Being alone is my
greatest fear".
Let’s look at fear from a business prospective. The first
definition really does not apply. There is no real imminent danger in
real estate investing, and it’s certainly not life threatening. The
last three definitions are where we usually run into problems getting
starting.
Fear is really about unfamiliarity and apprehension. Fear is a real
emotion, but you can conquer it. If you really think about it we’ve
been doing so our entire lives. Didn’t you once have apprehension
about riding a bike, or going on a roller coaster, or learning to drive?
Yet most of us were able to overcome these fears.
I know these are basic fears, but moving forward to take control of
your life really is no different.

Let's Analyze Fear
Let’s look at conquering fear analytically. We can break it down
into four steps and apply these steps to our fears.
F – figure it out.
E – evaluate it.
A – action plan it.
R – repeat it.
Step 1 is figuring out what we
are really afraid of. Let’s use the common fear of public speaking as
an example. Are you really afraid of speaking in public? Probably not,
we do it all the time. The fear is more likely the act of speaking in
front of a captive audience. To make it worse the audience is composed
of strangers, so they are unfamiliar to us. Also we will most likely
have to stand up and be on display during the speech.
You have to think through the surface fear and figure out what is
really causing the apprehension.
Step 2 is evaluation. Why are we
afraid of speaking to a captive audience? I know fear is an emotion, but
try approaching it analytically. Are we afraid of misspeaking? Are we
afraid of being embarrassed? Are we afraid of being asked a question?
Are we afraid of what people will think? Are we afraid of our pants
falling down? It’s probably a combination of all of these
possibilities, plus some others.
Now we’re making some progress and getting to the root cause of our
fear. When evaluating your fear ask yourself, "What’s the worst
that could happen?" Make a list of these things and you have a good
start on your evaluation. After reviewing your list you’ll probably
see it’s really not so bad.
Step 3 is to action plan to
overcome the fear. If we are afraid of misspeaking, being embarrassed,
or being asked a question, then we can practice our speech over and over
again, and even have notes available during the speech.
Will this guarantee that we won’t trip over a word do to
nervousness? Of course not, but we also realize that all great speakers
stumble over words do to nervousness or excitement. Do you really think
any less of a person who corrects himself or herself while talking?
We need to practice in front of a live audience, but you should crawl
before you walk. Let’s start by standing up and speaking in front of a
few of our friends. There will be some initial nervousness and
embarrassment, but it will soon pass. Then we might volunteer to give a
presentation at a group we’re involved with, such as the homeowners
association, the kid’s school, the office etc.
There will now be a combination of people we know and people we don’t
know. Again there will be some initial nervousness, but it passes
quickly. Now maybe we move up to the local toastmaster’s club and
follow the same routine.
Soon we realize that there is always some initial nervousness, but it
always passes and we are able to complete the speech and answer
questions.
Step 4 is to simply repeat the actions that you determined
would help you overcome the fear. Repetition breeds familiarity, and
once you become familiar with something there is no need to fear it.

Now, Put it All together
You can use the same plan to learn real estate
investing. Eliminate the risk and apprehension by starting out as a real
estate jobber. Learn first hand from established Investors. See how the
process works in real life. This will help you become familiar and more
comfortable with real estate investing.
Eventually you'll wonder why you were ever afraid!
So what are you really afraid of?